I must say that the baby thing is just starting to get old for me. My husband and I have resigned ourselves to the fact that we will not be able to conceive a child of our own. We have seen fertility specialists, have gone through the whole IVF thing without success. We are more than happy to adopt a child and know we can love that child no matter what.
What I am tired of is how rude people can be. I am sick of people telling me all the things I should do to get pregnant because that is what they did (even though it may come from a place of kindness). I am tired of people telling me how lucky they feel that they could get pregnant so easily and do not have to go through what I must be going through. I am tired of people telling me I am too old to even think of conceiving (gosh I am 40 now don't ya know).
But I think the kicker was a conversation I had today and was given the following sage advice: "Well you may want to adopt but you better understand that at your age they will never give you a baby and maybe not even a child at all." Wow that sure was nice to hear wasn't it! The best part is the conversation came up because this person began with why haven't you and your husband started the adoption process yet.
Enough ranting - sometimes I just feel better when I throw it out there and then can see how ridiculous the whole thing is.
Thanks for listening!
GRRRRRRRRRRRRRROOOAAAARRRR!!
ReplyDeleteThat was me growling on your behalf. I cannot imagine how frustrating this is for you so I won't even pretend. But I do hear how annoyed you are and how insensitive people can be and that just plain old sucks. And what the hell is anyone thinking saying that you're too old? Um, hello - SHUT UP! First of all that's not true and secondly that is really, really rude! You must have wanted to just smack him/her. I hope you put them in their place but I know if that was me I would have been too shocked to even say anything.
My best friend is in a similar situation to you and it's crap, crap, crap times a million. I know that nothing anyone can say or do will make it any better, I just want to apologize for their ignorance on behalf of everyone who doesn't fully "get it" (myself included since I'm not in your shoes). Your baby is out there for you, you have to keep believing that and working towards it and tell everyone else where they can go.
Your support is fantastic! Thanks for makin' me feel better
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